- What is a consequence?
➢ It is the outcome after a choice has been made
➢ It can be positive or negative
➢ Example: What would be the consequences of the following?
o Studying for a test a week before
o Skipping class and being seen by the teacher
o Helping someone pick up their groceries after the bag rips
o Ignoring a peer who needed help because your group of friends told you to - Every choice we make has a consequence. What does this statement mean?
➢ This means that any choices we make will always be followed by an outcome. Depending on the choice we have made, sometimes the outcome is positive and sometimes negative
➢ It is important that we think through a choice and its possible consequences before making it - What can help us make good choices?
➢ Taking the time to thoroughly think through a choice and weigh its consequences
➢ Getting help around a choice from a trusted adult
➢ Getting advice from a trusted friend
➢ Listening and trusting your intuition before making a choice - if a situation is making you feel unsafe, get help from a trusted adult
How are choices and consequences related to healthy relationships?
➢ We are constantly making choices around our relationships
o E.g., making the choice in a relationship to communicate openly
o E.g., making a choice to engage in self-care to boost our self-esteem
o E.g., making the choice to ask for consent
➢ The choices we make contribute to the health of our relationships both to ourselves and to others- Specifically, how are choices and consequences related to the other themes we talked about?
➢ Self-esteem
o Making choices around self-care: what are the consequences when we take care of ourselves? When we do not take care of ourselves?
o Making choices that makes us feel good: setting boundaries with others, expressing what we need, voicing our opinion, etc.
➢ Communication
o Making choices around how we communicate: do we communicate openly and honestly? Can we find a safe space where we can do so?
➢ Gender Stereotypes
o Are we aware of how gender stereotypes affect who we are, how we behave, and how we view others?
o Can we make a choice around not using gender stereotypes when relating to others?
➢ Getting Help & Barriers
o Who do we choose to get help from? What resources can we choose to use?
o When the first adult we turn to cannot help us, we can choose to continue getting help from another adult until we get the help we need
➢ Building Friendships
o How do we choose our friends? What qualities do we look for?
o Can we choose to establish healthy boundaries in our friendships?
o How can we resolve conflicts with friends in a healthy way? (e.g., choosing respect and open communication)
➢ Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships
o Making choices to cultivate a healthy relationship?
o If we are in an unhealthy situation or relationship, how can we respond?
o How can we get help or support about an unhealthy relationship?
➢ Secrecy & Manipulation
o Making choices around getting help about an unhealthy or abusive relationship?
➢ Consent
o How to go about establishing healthy boundaries in all of our relationships (e.g., making choices around respecting personal space, etc.)
o Making the choice to ask for consent and to go through the FRIES process of consent
➢ Legal Rights & Responsibilities
o Being aware of how our behaviour impacts ourselves and others and making healthy choices around this